If you have been involved in metaphysics at all, you may have heard this term. It is generally related to people. One clear indicator we have all experienced is “the phone call”. You know the one, you’re in a great mood and the phone rings. You see by caller ID this is going to be strenuous. By the end of the phone call, the friend you want to support and assist has left you tired, drained and empty (maybe even a little unwell). This is called Vamping. Just as the novel type of vampire sucks blood from their victim, an energy vampire sucks energy from others. So, this concept is easily understood especially since we all know one of more of these types of friends. I believe it would be safe to say, we’ve all BEEN this friend from time to time as well. It is the give and take of relationships. Sometimes you give (and give deeply), and sometimes you take (and take deeply). It all balances out in the end. If it doesn’t, then you are in an imbalanced relationship and therefore resentment will grow.
What if your worst energy vampire is not a person, but rather a job or hobby? What If you continue to put energy into a job, and receive little to no return? Yes, we can be discussing money, but we all know money is merely one part of a job. There are caveats within a job that hold “give and receive” tendencies including interaction with your co-workers, respect from the higher ups, and appreciation from your customers or clients to merely mention a few. If these jobs constantly take and give nothing more than a paycheck (if you feel unbalanced within the position, no money will NEVER feel like enough), then resentment builds. You feel drained, exhausted and as if you will live up to the expectations others have of you and or your position. It is a self-loathing place to be.
This self-loathing then turns inward deeper and can support the idea of you are not enough and will never be enough. You have allowed yourself to be set up into an emotional slavery that sees no end.
So, what to do? Change the way you invest your energy. I personally looked around my life and saw my energy split into 5 very different directions. I had to decide what my passion was (what would I do if I was not paid a dime), I moved all passions to a KEEP pile. Then the ones left (2) I have had to decide what to do with them. Did they leave me fulfilled ? No. Did they provide me income Yes. Do they uplift others? 1 yes, 1 maybe. Am I completely aligned with the mission of the situation/job? 1 maybe, 1 no. I released my position with both as I realized they are NOT beneficial to my growth, my passion, nor my mission. Sounds easy, huh? It can cost friends, income and status. In the end, however, there is only you and God, and you and you alone are in charge of Keeping The Peace within.
Review your own energy vampires, decide where they fit into your world, and remove the unnecessary. Make no mistake, this is not easy. Walking away from an enslavement (or addiction) never is. Once you release what is draining you, you allow space for the Universe to provide something wonderful to replace it!
What if your worst energy vampire is not a person, but rather a job or hobby? What If you continue to put energy into a job, and receive little to no return? Yes, we can be discussing money, but we all know money is merely one part of a job. There are caveats within a job that hold “give and receive” tendencies including interaction with your co-workers, respect from the higher ups, and appreciation from your customers or clients to merely mention a few. If these jobs constantly take and give nothing more than a paycheck (if you feel unbalanced within the position, no money will NEVER feel like enough), then resentment builds. You feel drained, exhausted and as if you will live up to the expectations others have of you and or your position. It is a self-loathing place to be.
This self-loathing then turns inward deeper and can support the idea of you are not enough and will never be enough. You have allowed yourself to be set up into an emotional slavery that sees no end.
So, what to do? Change the way you invest your energy. I personally looked around my life and saw my energy split into 5 very different directions. I had to decide what my passion was (what would I do if I was not paid a dime), I moved all passions to a KEEP pile. Then the ones left (2) I have had to decide what to do with them. Did they leave me fulfilled ? No. Did they provide me income Yes. Do they uplift others? 1 yes, 1 maybe. Am I completely aligned with the mission of the situation/job? 1 maybe, 1 no. I released my position with both as I realized they are NOT beneficial to my growth, my passion, nor my mission. Sounds easy, huh? It can cost friends, income and status. In the end, however, there is only you and God, and you and you alone are in charge of Keeping The Peace within.
Review your own energy vampires, decide where they fit into your world, and remove the unnecessary. Make no mistake, this is not easy. Walking away from an enslavement (or addiction) never is. Once you release what is draining you, you allow space for the Universe to provide something wonderful to replace it!